Hosting a Teen Party

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Author: Canadian Institute for Substance Use Research


Different families have different attitudes about teens and alcohol. Some parents prefer that their teen never use alcohol, even in adulthood. Other parents allow their children to drink small amounts as part of family traditions or cultural customs. Still other parents fall somewhere in between. Many prefer that their children delay using alcohol as long as possible. They may or may not discuss alcohol and ways to manage its use with their children.

Parents sometimes have the hard job of considering whether to allow their teen to have a party that includes alcohol, requiring them to weigh the risks and benefits. Those parents who choose to host a teen party involving alcohol can reduce the risks of harm by good planning, good supervision and fun activities that keep the focus off drinking. Here are some things to think about.


Talk with your teen

If your teen asks to have a party and wants to serve alcohol, you might want to use the opportunity to have a conversation about moderation and social responsibility. Topics to explore together include the number and composition of guests, supervision,activities, transportation, and how these all relate to levels of risk. Engage your teen in the process of risk assessment and management.

Alcohol and risk

All alcohol use carries some risk of harm. How much risk is involved and how much harm may result depends on several factors.

More alcohol equals more risk. Drinking more at a time or drinking more often increases risk substantially.

Younger age equals more risk. The human brain is not fully formed until well into adulthood and alcohol affects the development of young brains, especially if used regularly in large amounts.

Places, times and activities influence risk. Unsupervised teen drinking, for example, tends to be a particularly risky activity



Explore the alcohol question

There are several factors to consider before deciding whether to allow alcohol at a teen party. On the one hand, there are legal issues and, on the other, there is the question of what you might be losing by saying “no” to a gathering you could participate in with your child and supervise. If you agree to allow alcohol, discuss how saying “yes” to alcohol is not the same as saying “yes” to intoxication.

Alcohol and the law

A parent or guardian of a minor may provide alcohol only to their child in their home. This exception does not allow for alcohol to be provided to any other minors who may be in the home. Doing so could result in afine and legal responsibility for any damages or injury.

If alcohol is served at a party, a host could be accountable for any harm guests may experience after leaving the premises (even when the guests are of legal age to drink).



Consult with other parents

Contact other parents to introduce the party idea and let them know ifyou’re considering allowing supervised drinking. Involve them in the planning and try to reach common decisions. Be sure to discuss supervision, transportation and party size.


Ensure adult supervision

At least one sober adult should be present at all times during the party. If you’ve planned a large party, make sure other parents or adults are there to help out. You could assign each helper a different duty or station.


Control numbers

Develop a clear guest list rather than an open invitation. Using invitation cards can help keep a party to a manageable size. They can even double as entry tickets for a large gathering.


Provide entertainment

Helping your teen come up with fun activities or game ideas is a way to keep the focus away from alcohol. You could offer to put up a dart board, card table or ping-pong table. Or rent some movies, video games or a karaoke machine.


Offer food and soft drinks

Provide appropriate food throughout the party. Alcohol is absorbed more slowly when people have food in their stomachs. Be sure to provide water, soft drinks and juices. Stop serving alcohol about two hours before the designated end of the party.

According to Canada’s low-risk drinking guidelines
  • From late teens to age 24, youth should never have more than 2 drinks a day (for females) or 3 drinks a day (for males).

  • Teens should speak with their parents about drinking and never have more than 1 to 2 drinks at a time, and never more than 1 to 2 times per week.



Choose a chill out area

Think about having a place guests can go to step away from the music or loud voices. It could be a room or area with close adult supervision to ensure everyone feels secure and knows it’s okay to break away from the crowd


Prepare for crises

Before the party begins, it is a good idea to have a plan in place in the event something goes wrong or a guest who’s been drinking insists on driving home.


Get them home safe

Take guests home yourself, or arrange to have them picked up by their parents. If these options aren’t possible, use a taxi service or be prepared for overnight guests.


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The Canadian Institute for Substance Use Research, formerly CARBC, is a member of the BC Partners for Mental Health and Addictions Information. The institute is dedicated to the study of substance use in support of community-wide efforts aimed at providing all people with access to healthier lives, whether using substances or not. For more, visit